Cutting

[Madeleine90]

Lately I'm been thinking a lot about cutting myself. So far I've only made light scratches in the skin, I just bleed a little. It's like I can't feel anything else when I start bleeding. I forget all my worries.
Is there anything else I can do to ease my pain? I really don't want to cut myself.
Please, help me.
Maddy

[deejayH]

cant help you, but have seen alot of posts here about it so...

bump

[Fan_#1]

I try to talk to someone be it on here or by using a crisis line. They usually make me feel better to the point where I don't think about cutting myself. I also try to listen to music or do something else to make me not think about it. It's hard I felt like that just last night and I'm not feeling that well either tonight but I don't want to hurt my family on christmas eve or day so I'm on the net trying to take my mind of my problems. the best advice I can give you to try and talk to someone.

[shazza]

<font color="blue">How you feeling today sis? </font>

[Gemma_love_peace]

Once you start, it's so hard to stop. Whatever you do, don't start cutting deep, you will regret it. I don't know what is making you feel this way, but maybe you need to try to deal with it. I used to write poetry and stuff to try to get all my feelings out. Sometimes writing things down helps. At the end of the day, it's all about will power. It's almost a year since I last cut properly. I still get really strong urges sometimes, but I just have to distract myself until they subside. Talking to someone about your feelings also helps.
*hugs*

[ProtossLiz]

This was posted by someone on another board and it really made me think twice about what I was doing to myself, so I thought I would post it here.


<font color="red"> WARNING
....before you make that first cut remember. You will enjoy this. You will find the blood and pain release addictive. Even though you think you can make a few tiny cuts that aren't deep and will heal easily ...they will get deeper. They will scar. They will take sometimes months to heal!!! And years for the scars to fade! IF you think you can limit the cutting to one area of your body think again...it will spread when you run out of skin. Be prepared to withdraw from others and live in a constant state of shame. Even if you are the most honest person ever to live ....you will find yourself lying to the people you love. You will jerk back from your friends when they touch you as if their hands were dipped in poison. You will be terrified that they will feel something under the cloth of your shirt or because it just plain hurts so much to be touched.
Be prepared to get so out of control you fear your next cut because you don't know how bad it will be. Just wait for 10 cuts to turn into 100....Be prepared for your entire life to revolve around thinking about cutting ..cutting and covering up cutting And just wait till that first time you cut "too deep." And you freak out because the blood won't stop...and you are gaping....and you feel yourself shaking all over. You are having a panic attack and you are terrified but you can't tell anyone. So you sit there alone...praying it will be ok swearing you'll never let it go this far again...But you will and further. Don't worry, you will learn how to take care of your cuts so that you can go deeper and deeper and avoid the ER. And the better you get at treating your cuts the deeper they get.
You will lie to yourself and justify it when you find youself spending 20 , 30 or 50 dollars every time you go the pharmacy. You will feel the flutter of your heartbeat everytime you go to the counter to ring up your order. Butterfly strips...3 or four different kinds of dressings...betadine....antibiotic cream..medical tape..scar reducers.....You will tap your foot impatiently hoping the line will just move and no one will stare at you or wonder why you need all these things. And at the same time secretly hope someone will notice...someone who is standing in line with an armful of the same supplies...someone who understands but of course that never happens.
Medical supplies won't be the only thing you spend all your money on. Be prepared to buy a new wardrobe...longsleeve shirts in summer colors, bracelets, wristbands , boots... gloves..the list goes on and on.
You will start looking at everyone in a differnent way...Scanning their bodies for any signs of SI... just hoping that you might meet someone like you so you don't feel so terribly alone. You wont even think about it ..as your eyes scan their wrists arms...hoping just hoping they will be like you....But they are not. You will see their clean arms and feel terribly ashamed and alone.
You will start doing a lot of things alone. You will always have to wash your laundry in private so know one sees the blood stains on your clothes and towels. You will always be cleaning up the blood..Scrubbing your bathroom floor...wiping the blood of your keyboard....
You won't be able to make it through a day without cutting....Next thing you know you are in a public bathroom somewhere breaking open a scab with a sewing needle that you keep in your wallet for emergancies. When you get really desperate anything will be a cutting tool ...scissors...a car key...a needle ... a paperclip..even a pen. Doesn't matter what it is if you need to cut bad enough you will find something.
Say goodbye to things you took for granted. Like wearing shorts or sandals...pedicures...sleeveless tops.
A normal summer day at the beach or in a swimming pool will become a far off memory for you.
Get ready to itch. Beacuase you will itch and itch ..."so much you will look like you have fleas or a skin disease."
You will become an expert on your body as you destroy it carefully.. You will dream about cutting...you will dream about being exposed. It will haunt you day and night and take over your life. You will wish you never made that first cut because while you absolutely HATE cutting...at the same time you love it and can not live with out of it.

you have been warned.....
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[crazy4jtb]

Hey, trust me usually what helps is to just talk to someone about what's going on and asking for their help. I had a cutting problem a while back and I'm glad my friends helped me to stop. Plus if you do end up cutting yourself you'll regret it trust me I still have scars. So don't do it.

[sexie__brunette]

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This was posted by someone on another board and it really made me think twice about what I was doing to myself, so I thought I would post it here.

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<font color="red"> WARNING
....before you make that first cut remember. You will enjoy this. You will find the blood and pain release addictive. Even though you think you can make a few tiny cuts that aren't deep and will heal easily ...they will get deeper. They will scar. They will take sometimes months to heal!!! And years for the scars to fade! IF you think you can limit the cutting to one area of your body think again...it will spread when you run out of skin. Be prepared to withdraw from others and live in a constant state of shame. Even if you are the most honest person ever to live ....you will find yourself lying to the people you love. You will jerk back from your friends when they touch you as if their hands were dipped in poison. You will be terrified that they will feel something under the cloth of your shirt or because it just plain hurts so much to be touched.
Be prepared to get so out of control you fear your next cut because you don't know how bad it will be. Just wait for 10 cuts to turn into 100....Be prepared for your entire life to revolve around thinking about cutting ..cutting and covering up cutting And just wait till that first time you cut "too deep." And you freak out because the blood won't stop...and you are gaping....and you feel yourself shaking all over. You are having a panic attack and you are terrified but you can't tell anyone. So you sit there alone...praying it will be ok swearing you'll never let it go this far again...But you will and further. Don't worry, you will learn how to take care of your cuts so that you can go deeper and deeper and avoid the ER. And the better you get at treating your cuts the deeper they get.
You will lie to yourself and justify it when you find youself spending 20 , 30 or 50 dollars every time you go the pharmacy. You will feel the flutter of your heartbeat everytime you go to the counter to ring up your order. Butterfly strips...3 or four different kinds of dressings...betadine....antibiotic cream..medical tape..scar reducers.....You will tap your foot impatiently hoping the line will just move and no one will stare at you or wonder why you need all these things. And at the same time secretly hope someone will notice...someone who is standing in line with an armful of the same supplies...someone who understands but of course that never happens.
Medical supplies won't be the only thing you spend all your money on. Be prepared to buy a new wardrobe...longsleeve shirts in summer colors, bracelets, wristbands , boots... gloves..the list goes on and on.
You will start looking at everyone in a differnent way...Scanning their bodies for any signs of SI... just hoping that you might meet someone like you so you don't feel so terribly alone. You wont even think about it ..as your eyes scan their wrists arms...hoping just hoping they will be like you....But they are not. You will see their clean arms and feel terribly ashamed and alone.
You will start doing a lot of things alone. You will always have to wash your laundry in private so know one sees the blood stains on your clothes and towels. You will always be cleaning up the blood..Scrubbing your bathroom floor...wiping the blood of your keyboard....
You won't be able to make it through a day without cutting....Next thing you know you are in a public bathroom somewhere breaking open a scab with a sewing needle that you keep in your wallet for emergancies. When you get really desperate anything will be a cutting tool ...scissors...a car key...a needle ... a paperclip..even a pen. Doesn't matter what it is if you need to cut bad enough you will find something.
Say goodbye to things you took for granted. Like wearing shorts or sandals...pedicures...sleeveless tops.
A normal summer day at the beach or in a swimming pool will become a far off memory for you.
Get ready to itch. Beacuase you will itch and itch ..."so much you will look like you have fleas or a skin disease."
You will become an expert on your body as you destroy it carefully.. You will dream about cutting...you will dream about being exposed. It will haunt you day and night and take over your life. You will wish you never made that first cut because while you absolutely HATE cutting...at the same time you love it and can not live with out of it.

you have been warned.....
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wow! thats scary, i used ot know someone who cut but i never thogh it was that bad and all the stuff you go through. wow, i never though of it in that way.

[tabatha_bob]

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This was posted by someone on another board and it really made me think twice about what I was doing to myself, so I thought I would post it here.

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<font color="red"> WARNING
....before you make that first cut remember. You will enjoy this. You will find the blood and pain release addictive. Even though you think you can make a few tiny cuts that aren't deep and will heal easily ...they will get deeper. They will scar. They will take sometimes months to heal!!! And years for the scars to fade! IF you think you can limit the cutting to one area of your body think again...it will spread when you run out of skin. Be prepared to withdraw from others and live in a constant state of shame. Even if you are the most honest person ever to live ....you will find yourself lying to the people you love. You will jerk back from your friends when they touch you as if their hands were dipped in poison. You will be terrified that they will feel something under the cloth of your shirt or because it just plain hurts so much to be touched.
Be prepared to get so out of control you fear your next cut because you don't know how bad it will be. Just wait for 10 cuts to turn into 100....Be prepared for your entire life to revolve around thinking about cutting ..cutting and covering up cutting And just wait till that first time you cut "too deep." And you freak out because the blood won't stop...and you are gaping....and you feel yourself shaking all over. You are having a panic attack and you are terrified but you can't tell anyone. So you sit there alone...praying it will be ok swearing you'll never let it go this far again...But you will and further. Don't worry, you will learn how to take care of your cuts so that you can go deeper and deeper and avoid the ER. And the better you get at treating your cuts the deeper they get.
You will lie to yourself and justify it when you find youself spending 20 , 30 or 50 dollars every time you go the pharmacy. You will feel the flutter of your heartbeat everytime you go to the counter to ring up your order. Butterfly strips...3 or four different kinds of dressings...betadine....antibiotic cream..medical tape..scar reducers.....You will tap your foot impatiently hoping the line will just move and no one will stare at you or wonder why you need all these things. And at the same time secretly hope someone will notice...someone who is standing in line with an armful of the same supplies...someone who understands but of course that never happens.
Medical supplies won't be the only thing you spend all your money on. Be prepared to buy a new wardrobe...longsleeve shirts in summer colors, bracelets, wristbands , boots... gloves..the list goes on and on.
You will start looking at everyone in a differnent way...Scanning their bodies for any signs of SI... just hoping that you might meet someone like you so you don't feel so terribly alone. You wont even think about it ..as your eyes scan their wrists arms...hoping just hoping they will be like you....But they are not. You will see their clean arms and feel terribly ashamed and alone.
You will start doing a lot of things alone. You will always have to wash your laundry in private so know one sees the blood stains on your clothes and towels. You will always be cleaning up the blood..Scrubbing your bathroom floor...wiping the blood of your keyboard....
You won't be able to make it through a day without cutting....Next thing you know you are in a public bathroom somewhere breaking open a scab with a sewing needle that you keep in your wallet for emergancies. When you get really desperate anything will be a cutting tool ...scissors...a car key...a needle ... a paperclip..even a pen. Doesn't matter what it is if you need to cut bad enough you will find something.
Say goodbye to things you took for granted. Like wearing shorts or sandals...pedicures...sleeveless tops.
A normal summer day at the beach or in a swimming pool will become a far off memory for you.
Get ready to itch. Beacuase you will itch and itch ..."so much you will look like you have fleas or a skin disease."
You will become an expert on your body as you destroy it carefully.. You will dream about cutting...you will dream about being exposed. It will haunt you day and night and take over your life. You will wish you never made that first cut because while you absolutely HATE cutting...at the same time you love it and can not live with out of it.

you have been warned.....
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a lot of that sounds incredibly close to home and scarily something i remember all too well...its a good warning. thankflly i didnt get quite that far as mentioned but still...god that was scary to read.. /images/graemlins/crazy.gif

i just hope more people get to read this! never let things get out of control!!..

xxx

[P3Halliwell13295]

that whole warning thing, very true....i started cuting on my right arm, then when out of room, moved to my left,then my legs, then my shoulders...it got so out of control babe...and yes i still have my scars...they are VERY slowly fading away, if at all...all the words/phrases ive carved into my legs, still there....ive lied, lied so very much to hid my scars...keep my friends from touchnig that one place too long...i live with a lot o shame, especially when i swim, ima water baby, its in my blood, when im in a swimsuit, its embaressing to see people stare and when people ask, I reply with 'none of ur buisness' or 'i get hurt a lot' or other sorry excuse....please baby gurl, find another way, ive stopped,yet i still have tendencies...once u start the urges may never go away....so, listen to music, scream, write songs/poetry...anything but cutting...if u need to talk IM me at: AIM- RoseMcGowanRulez
YIM- halliwellp31329
MSN- rose_mcgowan_shannen_doherty_rulez@hotmail.com

[sexie__brunette]

thanks too you to for the heads up...

[Gemma_love_peace]

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that whole warning thing, very true....i started cuting on my right arm, then when out of room, moved to my left,then my legs, then my shoulders...it got so out of control babe...and yes i still have my scars...they are VERY slowly fading away, if at all...all the words/phrases ive carved into my legs, still there....ive lied, lied so very much to hid my scars...keep my friends from touchnig that one place too long...i live with a lot o shame, especially when i swim, ima water baby, its in my blood, when im in a swimsuit, its embaressing to see people stare and when people ask, I reply with 'none of ur buisness' or 'i get hurt a lot' or other sorry excuse....please baby gurl, find another way, ive stopped,yet i still have tendencies...once u start the urges may never go away....so, listen to music, scream, write songs/poetry...anything but cutting...if u need to talk IM me at: AIM- RoseMcGowanRulez
YIM- halliwellp31329
MSN- rose_mcgowan_shannen_doherty_rulez@hotmail.com

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I agree...to anyone thinking about starting cutting, don't do it. You will regret it forever.

[taz90]

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This was posted by someone on another board and it really made me think twice about what I was doing to myself, so I thought I would post it here.

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<font color="red"> WARNING
....before you make that first cut remember. You will enjoy this. You will find the blood and pain release addictive. Even though you think you can make a few tiny cuts that aren't deep and will heal easily ...they will get deeper. They will scar. They will take sometimes months to heal!!! And years for the scars to fade! IF you think you can limit the cutting to one area of your body think again...it will spread when you run out of skin. Be prepared to withdraw from others and live in a constant state of shame. Even if you are the most honest person ever to live ....you will find yourself lying to the people you love. You will jerk back from your friends when they touch you as if their hands were dipped in poison. You will be terrified that they will feel something under the cloth of your shirt or because it just plain hurts so much to be touched.
Be prepared to get so out of control you fear your next cut because you don't know how bad it will be. Just wait for 10 cuts to turn into 100....Be prepared for your entire life to revolve around thinking about cutting ..cutting and covering up cutting And just wait till that first time you cut "too deep." And you freak out because the blood won't stop...and you are gaping....and you feel yourself shaking all over. You are having a panic attack and you are terrified but you can't tell anyone. So you sit there alone...praying it will be ok swearing you'll never let it go this far again...But you will and further. Don't worry, you will learn how to take care of your cuts so that you can go deeper and deeper and avoid the ER. And the better you get at treating your cuts the deeper they get.
You will lie to yourself and justify it when you find youself spending 20 , 30 or 50 dollars every time you go the pharmacy. You will feel the flutter of your heartbeat everytime you go to the counter to ring up your order. Butterfly strips...3 or four different kinds of dressings...betadine....antibiotic cream..medical tape..scar reducers.....You will tap your foot impatiently hoping the line will just move and no one will stare at you or wonder why you need all these things. And at the same time secretly hope someone will notice...someone who is standing in line with an armful of the same supplies...someone who understands but of course that never happens.
Medical supplies won't be the only thing you spend all your money on. Be prepared to buy a new wardrobe...longsleeve shirts in summer colors, bracelets, wristbands , boots... gloves..the list goes on and on.
You will start looking at everyone in a differnent way...Scanning their bodies for any signs of SI... just hoping that you might meet someone like you so you don't feel so terribly alone. You wont even think about it ..as your eyes scan their wrists arms...hoping just hoping they will be like you....But they are not. You will see their clean arms and feel terribly ashamed and alone.
You will start doing a lot of things alone. You will always have to wash your laundry in private so know one sees the blood stains on your clothes and towels. You will always be cleaning up the blood..Scrubbing your bathroom floor...wiping the blood of your keyboard....
You won't be able to make it through a day without cutting....Next thing you know you are in a public bathroom somewhere breaking open a scab with a sewing needle that you keep in your wallet for emergancies. When you get really desperate anything will be a cutting tool ...scissors...a car key...a needle ... a paperclip..even a pen. Doesn't matter what it is if you need to cut bad enough you will find something.
Say goodbye to things you took for granted. Like wearing shorts or sandals...pedicures...sleeveless tops.
A normal summer day at the beach or in a swimming pool will become a far off memory for you.
Get ready to itch. Beacuase you will itch and itch ..."so much you will look like you have fleas or a skin disease."
You will become an expert on your body as you destroy it carefully.. You will dream about cutting...you will dream about being exposed. It will haunt you day and night and take over your life. You will wish you never made that first cut because while you absolutely HATE cutting...at the same time you love it and can not live with out of it.

you have been warned.....
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some of that is all to familiar...
good stuff there though, you've gota get it undercontrol before it gets to far. i have scars from about a year ago that still havent gone properly, everycut you make will show up in the end someone will notice... you will start to distance yourself from people... and that just make it worse. remeber every cut that you make the next one will be deeper, then deeper, then deeper. if you find out why you cut theres ways of dealing with it and what part of cutitng helps you deal with it, i.e some people (me being 1 of them) like cutitng because of the pain, if its pain then use a rubber band or something similar that you can ping when you need to, to give you the pain without serious injury, someone i know does it because of the blood, so when she's tryin to stop she uses red paint or pens and draws the cuts on with them when she feels the urges.
hope this helps, if you wana talk about it then just drop a Pm my way.

Sarah xxx

[Lil_Piper]

I am doing the whole rubber band thing that I was suggested on a web site. So put a rubber band around your wrist every time you feel the need to cut pull the rubber band back and let it snap across your wrist...the good thing about this is that I am starting to feel the pain of it. Hope it helps
Kimber

[sexie__brunette]

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I am doing the whole rubber band thing that I was suggested on a web site. So put a rubber band around your wrist every time you feel the need to cut pull the rubber band back and let it snap across your wrist...the good thing about this is that I am starting to feel the pain of it. Hope it helps
Kimber

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Thats good your stopping..
in my case, i'm not addicted to it yet, but i have only done it 3 times in my life...so i'm trying not to do it agian now that i know this...

[taz90]

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I am doing the whole rubber band thing that I was suggested on a web site. So put a rubber band around your wrist every time you feel the need to cut pull the rubber band back and let it snap across your wrist...the good thing about this is that I am starting to feel the pain of it. Hope it helps
Kimber

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hey goodluck with stopping, if you need anythin feel free to pm me

[Cutiepie]

Hi
I've never cut myself, but it's been very close several times. When I'm really depressed, I sit with a knife over my wrist, ready to cut. Somehow I've always stopped, and called my best friend, before I've done it. She knows, and she just drops everything to come and talk to me. She's great. It really helps to have someone to talk to, someone to talk you out of it. She always saves me. If you contemplate cutting, you should talk so someone. If you don't want to talk to your friends or family, you can talk to your teacher, the school nurse or a psychologist.
Love Cutiepie

[aba]

I know that a load of people are going to have a go at me for this...but it's just my opinion, just as you have the right to cut yourselves, i have the right to hate it.

It just seems to me that this is all very self indulgent, it also appears to be middle class girls who do it. If it's the pain you like why don't you try shooting yourself in the foot or smashing your hand with a hammer?

People say that "you dont know what ive been through" well guess what, everyone goes through stuff. People go through more than most of us can imagine. People who go through the worst things, losing both parents...being diagnosed with cancer...losing both legs, never complain. They don't call themselves victims...they are survivors.

If you really want to kill yourslef go ahead, but don't ask for attention by doing something that desn't really hurt, and think of the people you are going to leave behind. My friend killed himself, and his parents will never know why, but he didn't ask for attention, he just didn't want to live any more and that was his decision.

Please, when you want to do it, think of people starving in Afria and don't pretend that you could even imagine what they are going through.

[Jess]

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I know that a load of people are going to have a go at me for this...but it's just my opinion, just as you have the right to cut yourselves, i have the right to hate it.

It just seems to me that this is all very self indulgent, it also appears to be middle class girls who do it. If it's the pain you like why don't you try shooting yourself in the foot or smashing your hand with a hammer?

People say that "you dont know what ive been through" well guess what, everyone goes through stuff. People go through more than most of us can imagine. People who go through the worst things, losing both parents...being diagnosed with cancer...losing both legs, never complain. They don't call themselves victims...they are survivors.

If you really want to kill yourslef go ahead, but don't ask for attention by doing something that desn't really hurt, and think of the people you are going to leave behind. My friend killed himself, and his parents will never know why, but he didn't ask for attention, he just didn't want to live any more and that was his decision.

Please, when you want to do it, think of people starving in Afria and don't pretend that you could even imagine what they are going through.

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I want to begin by saying that I'm very sorry about your friend. It's tragic when something like that happens, and I know from personal experience that the friends and family who are left behind are devastated.

And you know what? You're right. You have the right to hate it. I don't think anyone thinks that it is healthy and most people want help to stop.

But are you kidding me? Cutting is a method of coping, just like cigarettes, drugs, or overeating. I am aware that there are people out there who experience the same or worse traumas who are able to cope without injuring themselves. But many times, the self-injurer is injuring because they have survived extremely traumatic events in their lives. I don't mean that they failed a history test or they feel misunderstood. Many but not all self-injurers have survived experiences such as physical abuse or rape. Granted, it is a negative coping skill, but people have problems, and this is sometimes how they cope. I think that attacking someone as a person because of their problem is very wrong.

As for shooting oneself in the foot or smashing a hand with a hammer, many self-injurers do worse.

I would also like to point out that encouraging people "If you really want to kill yourself go ahead" is just plain mean. I tried twice, and if I had heard a comment like that, I would have attempted and probably succeeded the third time.

I hope that I have not offended you, because I am not trying to attack you. I just want to you to know that I am very offended by what you have written.

xx Jess xx

[taz90]

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I know that a load of people are going to have a go at me for this...but it's just my opinion, just as you have the right to cut yourselves, i have the right to hate it.

It just seems to me that this is all very self indulgent, it also appears to be middle class girls who do it. If it's the pain you like why don't you try shooting yourself in the foot or smashing your hand with a hammer?

People say that "you dont know what ive been through" well guess what, everyone goes through stuff. People go through more than most of us can imagine. People who go through the worst things, losing both parents...being diagnosed with cancer...losing both legs, never complain. They don't call themselves victims...they are survivors.

If you really want to kill yourslef go ahead, but don't ask for attention by doing something that desn't really hurt, and think of the people you are going to leave behind. My friend killed himself, and his parents will never know why, but he didn't ask for attention, he just didn't want to live any more and that was his decision.

Please, when you want to do it, think of people starving in Afria and don't pretend that you could even imagine what they are going through.

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Ok you've shared your opinion now its time for mine..
yeah you have the right to hate it, so does anyone and everyone.. i am sorry to hear about your friend and i know that its hard to deal with when someone you love dies and sometimes harder when they've killed themself.

Sorry but your post has really offended me, it seems you dont really have much of an idea what your going on about..
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If it's the pain you like why don't you try shooting yourself in the foot or smashing your hand with a hammer?


[/ QUOTE ] Some people who Selfharm do a lot worse than that, there is more to Selfharm than cutting..

yes people go through stuff all the time, but Cutting and Selfharm is a way for people to cope with the things that happen to them or are happening around them, yes its not a healthy way to do so but its their way. Most that selfharm do want to stop and find it difficult, it gets addicting, its the same as someone might get addicted to drugs or cigarettes or alcohol. With cigarettes for example a smoker gets stressed out, what do they normally do.. have a fag... its the same with people that selfharm, its just a way a coping with things.

People who selfharm tend to have had something big happen in their life that they are finding it hard to deal with. the most common childhood experiences that lead to selfharm are:
Sexual abuse
• Physical abuse
• Witness to domestic violence
• Parents with alcohol problems
• Parents with severe mental health problems
• Neglect
• Bereavement, often loss of a parent
• Bullying and harassment (often related to body image, perceived physical difference such as disfigurement)

The most common adulthood experiences that lead to selfharm are:
• Rape
• Sexual abuse
• Sexual harassment
• Being mugged
• Miscarriage
• Loss of a child (through bereavement or separation)
• Finding out that you are unable to have children
• Personal serious illness
• Relationship breakdown
• Institutional stay in prison/psychiatric hospital

and these are all things that people find it hard to deal with, selfharm is just a way of coping with them..

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If you really want to kill yourslef go ahead, but don't ask for attention by doing something that desn't really hurt

[/ QUOTE ] This is probably what offends me the most, if someone is feeling low you saying that isnt guna help any, have you ever tried to kill yourself? considered killing yourself? Everything running through your head, thinking about everything in your life thats happened, everyone your going to be leaving behind, your friends, your family, your life, its not an easy thing to do, ive tried to kill myself a number of times, and well maybe its weak but it seems right at the time.. [ QUOTE ]
but don't ask for attention by doing something that desn't really hurt

[/ QUOTE ] Yes some people selfharm for attention but most are ashamed and hide that they do it the best they can, their not calling out for attention, theyre trying to cope with something.

[geekazoid]

I think i'm sort of in the middle of the two sides on this one. I agree that people go through some dreadful things, like rape, abuse etc. but I also agree that cutting is not the best thing to do.

There are a few girls at my school who cut, and it is mainly for attention and some of them even admit that. And it can be indulgent to say "awww you poor thing" to people, but I also firmly believe that we must help people who feel they have to do that sort of thing, especially when they have gone something truely awful that, hopefully, most of us will never have to go through.

I was bullied badly at my old school, and it didn't help that I then had to leave for a while because all the physical abuse made my condition worse (i have a disease in my back). But I would never give anyone the satisfaction of hurting myself because of what they did to me. I know that every situation is diferent, but I think we need to encourage people to feel, as aba said, like survivors, but not by putting them down or ignoring them.

I do agree that people do feel as if no one can possibly have ever gone through something as bad as they are right now, but that is human nature, and everyone feels that way sometimes. The solution is not to say "go and kill yourself"

Thats just my opinion, and to people who do cut. Please ask for help, it is the first and biggest step that takes the most courage. /images/graemlins/grin.gif

[geekazoid]

I also think it is unfair at times. A girl at my school's dad died, but she was almost completely ignored because another girl started cutting herself because (and i quote, i'm not being mean and making it up) because her boyfriend left her, and so everyone's attention was on her.

I think we sometimes need to be careful not to ignore those who desperately want to try cutting, but can stop themselves. This doesn't mean they are strong and don't need any one. I have wanted to cut myself, but never have, i still need a shoulder to cry on every now and then though.

Everyone is different, and everone needs love

[JoannePotter]

i noe just how u feel...im in the same predicament!!!
i find venting anger on other things help!!! ive written a lot of songs about my pain and they r rather angry!!!

i also go out and beat the **** out of a hockey ball on the field when i play....i feel much better but it really depends onn you and what u feel like?!?!

it also depends on wat is making u feel like this...wats making u cut!!!
it could be something making u angry...or sad...but it really depends...u might just need to sit and talk wid ppl not vent off anger!!!!

Jacqui

[CrimsonRegret]

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Lately I'm been thinking a lot about cutting myself. So far I've only made light scratches in the skin, I just bleed a little. It's like I can't feel anything else when I start bleeding. I forget all my worries.
Is there anything else I can do to ease my pain? I really don't want to cut myself.
Please, help me.
Maddy

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I used to hit things. But I had to stop once I broke my index finger. Then I just didn't tell anyone and let the pain be my release. Then I lapsed back into cutting. Now, though, I hit things again. Some friends said that screaming into a pillow or hitting a pillow helps. Dunno how much that helped, but I hope it did!

Peace,
Meg