Dominae
02-10-2005, 02:56 PM
<font color="#9900FF">OK so here's the thing....
I play football (soccer) for my local team and have been now for 2years... Back in October 2004, a new member joined our team. i was totally infatuated with her, she's beautiful, sooo funny, and REALLY kind and caring... I was having a few problems with our manager back at the time she arrived and although we hadn't known eachother very long she was always the first if not the only person who would text me to see if i was ok!
We were getting quite close at one point always texting eachother and started going out to the pub to play pool, and have a few bevvies and just get to know one another as friends.
couple of my friends knew i fancied her, and i believe that she was told... (she has a boyfriend, i was aware of this and that they been together for 5years he's a lot older than her)
On sunday evenings our football club always goes to the same pub for karaoke and a laugh, and i think most people noticed that she was being really flirty and touchy feely with me, (i blamed it on the alcohol).
anyways come december, we were really good mates and felt we could confide in one another about anything. we were really really close. After one sunday night i gave her and another one of my mates a lift home (i dont drink and they were plastered) the other girl got out to help her to her door, but she stayed in the car and was hugging me telling me how much she loved me and that i was her best mate and that she will always be there for me and all the stuff most people say when there drunk! She was conviced that after that she had said something out of line but i assured her that she had not......
ok skipping to the real problem now.... about a week before christmas she found out from a text message on my phone that i fancied her, and now ever since things have just been so different between us, even though she text me the next day to say that nothing has changed... now i can barely get a "hello" from her and she doesn't hug or touch me in any way.
Things have just completly changed,I sent her a really long email about a week after things had changed to say that, i respect her so much as a friend and that i seriously didnt want to lose that, and that i wouldnt do anything to attempt losing that. all i got back was a text saying "thanks for your email" she didnt reassure me that things were fine or anything... and now 2months on things just seem to be getting worse, and its now starting to get me really down, i cry nearly every night and im just constently depressed! im not eating and i cant sleep (i dont blame this all on her though there our other reasons which i wont go into)...
I just really dont know what to do i've tried just saying just forget it she isnt worth it, but it doesnt work as i feel the friendship we did have was worth fighting for!!!
I've tried the sit back andlet her come to me approach but that DEFINETLY doesnt work and then i've tried just pretending its not happening and jsut being myself around her, but i just hate that i have to make the first move to speak to her everytime! I just want us to be back to the way we were before everything fell apart, i blame myself for liking her as she obviously felt uncomfortable with it and now i feel that she thinks i only wanna talk to her because i think she's fit, even though i totally explained that that's just not it... please if anyone knows something i can try then please please help me out, its seriusly starting to drive me insane!
SO sorry that this post is so long, hope you guys who have managed to get this far didnt get too bored! i jsut really needed to get it off my chest as its really eating me away and i cant handle it anymore i just want it to stop!
Love Always
Dominae
xxx </font>
I play football (soccer) for my local team and have been now for 2years... Back in October 2004, a new member joined our team. i was totally infatuated with her, she's beautiful, sooo funny, and REALLY kind and caring... I was having a few problems with our manager back at the time she arrived and although we hadn't known eachother very long she was always the first if not the only person who would text me to see if i was ok!
We were getting quite close at one point always texting eachother and started going out to the pub to play pool, and have a few bevvies and just get to know one another as friends.
couple of my friends knew i fancied her, and i believe that she was told... (she has a boyfriend, i was aware of this and that they been together for 5years he's a lot older than her)
On sunday evenings our football club always goes to the same pub for karaoke and a laugh, and i think most people noticed that she was being really flirty and touchy feely with me, (i blamed it on the alcohol).
anyways come december, we were really good mates and felt we could confide in one another about anything. we were really really close. After one sunday night i gave her and another one of my mates a lift home (i dont drink and they were plastered) the other girl got out to help her to her door, but she stayed in the car and was hugging me telling me how much she loved me and that i was her best mate and that she will always be there for me and all the stuff most people say when there drunk! She was conviced that after that she had said something out of line but i assured her that she had not......
ok skipping to the real problem now.... about a week before christmas she found out from a text message on my phone that i fancied her, and now ever since things have just been so different between us, even though she text me the next day to say that nothing has changed... now i can barely get a "hello" from her and she doesn't hug or touch me in any way.
Things have just completly changed,I sent her a really long email about a week after things had changed to say that, i respect her so much as a friend and that i seriously didnt want to lose that, and that i wouldnt do anything to attempt losing that. all i got back was a text saying "thanks for your email" she didnt reassure me that things were fine or anything... and now 2months on things just seem to be getting worse, and its now starting to get me really down, i cry nearly every night and im just constently depressed! im not eating and i cant sleep (i dont blame this all on her though there our other reasons which i wont go into)...
I just really dont know what to do i've tried just saying just forget it she isnt worth it, but it doesnt work as i feel the friendship we did have was worth fighting for!!!
I've tried the sit back andlet her come to me approach but that DEFINETLY doesnt work and then i've tried just pretending its not happening and jsut being myself around her, but i just hate that i have to make the first move to speak to her everytime! I just want us to be back to the way we were before everything fell apart, i blame myself for liking her as she obviously felt uncomfortable with it and now i feel that she thinks i only wanna talk to her because i think she's fit, even though i totally explained that that's just not it... please if anyone knows something i can try then please please help me out, its seriusly starting to drive me insane!
SO sorry that this post is so long, hope you guys who have managed to get this far didnt get too bored! i jsut really needed to get it off my chest as its really eating me away and i cant handle it anymore i just want it to stop!
Love Always
Dominae
xxx </font>