Just a DISASTER!

[pi_per]

I feel so lost!
See I have this friend in Germany and I went to visit her a few weeks ago! We've been chatting so long and we were really close friends. Acutally more than friends. And you know, during those days we had more than just friendship. When I had to go back home we decided just to be friends again cuz we couldn't be together (the distance) We both didn't want it. So we talked online and stuff. But 1 week ago she had something else with another girl (not lesbians but bi) and it really hurt me. But I couldn't blame her cuz we're not together and decided to be friends. We talked on the phone everynight and stuff. She was supposed to call yesterday...but she didn't. Today she wrote a message saying that her Mom found out everything about this other girl and me. She said that we're dirty sluts and she never wants to see us again. I messaged my friend back saying that I was sorry that her Mom found out but she never replied. Well...I'm worried. I'm sure her parents won't let her get in contact with me no more. I'm too afraid to call cuz her Mom might say something really mean to me or just hang up on me. We can't even be friends no more.

This all sucks and it's really puttin' me down and stuff. I just don't know what to do...I don't wanna lose her /images/graemlins/frown.gif Help!!??

It's not fair to judge someone's sexuality. I mean, there's nothing we can do about our feelings. They're just there. It's not like I wanted it...! It's hard to live with a different sexuality and you get really frustrated and depressed because it's not "normal". Her Mom really hurt me cuz I'm @#$%!' no slut. It's not like I jump in bed with all people around me. I just can't understand it. When I was actually there visiting them her parents told me that I'm a very nice and polite girl and stuff. And now I'm a slut?

[taz90]

that sucks ***!!
try and get in contact with her again..
thats not fair her mom calling you that
no one can help what they feel...

[pi_per]

I got to talk to her online for a while. She told me that her mom talks about commiting suicide (how do I spell that?) and she was like all hyper and stuff. I just didn't know what to tell my friend. I asked her if she wanted to call me later but she told me that she just needs some time for herself and pray. I told her that it would be fine but I'm always there for her.

Sometimes I just think it's wrong what I feel. Why can't I just love a men who loves me? That would be so easy. But being in this position I am right now...makes everything so difficult and I start to hate it.

[taz90]

her mom is thinking of sucicude cuz you had something with her daughter, thats goin wayyy ott...
do you know if she's tried talking to her mom about it at all?
you cant help the way you feel hun, it might not be easy but there's nothing you can do about that, jus wait and things will get better /images/graemlins/smile.gif

[pi_per]

Yeah my friend tried to talk to her mom but she didn't want to listen. She told her OWN DAUGHTER that she's a @#$%!' slut and she can't believe having a kid like that.
Gosh my mom would never ever say that to me!!!!!!

[KeeperOfThePhoenix]

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Sometimes I just think it's wrong what I feel. Why can't I just love a men who loves me? That would be so easy. But being in this position I am right now...makes everything so difficult and I start to hate it.

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Regardless of what others tell you, know that you are in control of your choices. You have explored a life style that you admittedly hate. Don't be content with having something in your life you don't want. If you hate it, remove yourself from it.

Feelings of caring and love for someone of the same sex doesn't mean you have to have sex with them to express it. You can be an open ear and a ready support. That's a less complicated way to express love to another woman.

[rocco]

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Sometimes I just think it's wrong what I feel. Why can't I just love a men who loves me? That would be so easy. But being in this position I am right now...makes everything so difficult and I start to hate it.

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Regardless of what others tell you, know that you are in control of your choices. You have explored a life style that you admittedly hate. Don't be content with having something in your life you don't want. If you hate it, remove yourself from it.

Feelings of caring and love for someone of the same sex doesn't mean you have to have sex with them to express it. You can be an open ear and a ready support. That's a less complicated way to express love to another woman.

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thats true.i hope i dont offend u piper..whatever it is her mum shouldnt have called u and her daughter that.I hope things will work out for u..

[pi_per]

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Sometimes I just think it's wrong what I feel. Why can't I just love a men who loves me? That would be so easy. But being in this position I am right now...makes everything so difficult and I start to hate it.

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Regardless of what others tell you, know that you are in control of your choices. You have explored a life style that you admittedly hate. Don't be content with having something in your life you don't want. If you hate it, remove yourself from it.

Feelings of caring and love for someone of the same sex doesn't mean you have to have sex with them to express it. You can be an open ear and a ready support. That's a less complicated way to express love to another woman.

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U know what? I acutally agree with you. But then I would like suppress my feelings. I mean, feelings for men aren't just the same as for women and I wish I could change it but I can't. I would suppress my feelings and do something I don't want to probably. But having all this trouble around me confuses me and I hate it that I have to feel this way! I just wish I wouldn't feel anything sometimes.

[rocco]

"Realize that the emotions that u are feeling at this very moment are a gift,a guideline,a support system, a call to action .If u suppress your emotions and try to drive them out of your life,or you magnify them and allow them to take everything,then you are squandering one of life's most precious resources"
"You are the source of your emotions;you are the one who creates them" --Anthony Robbins /images/graemlins/smile.gif

[pi_per]

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"Realize that the emotions that u are feeling at this very moment are a gift,a guideline,a support system, a call to action .If u suppress your emotions and try to drive them out of your life,or you magnify them and allow them to take everything,then you are squandering one of life's most precious resources"
"You are the source of your emotions;you are the one who creates them" --Anthony Robbins /images/graemlins/smile.gif

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I am the one creating them? So tell me...how can I change them then? I can't. It just doesn't work.

[Holly_rox]

aww, Mile, that really sux! i think you should try to call her, and if her mom answers, tell her what you think about her view of your relationship. she is in no position to judge you, or anyone else!
good luck!

[pi_per]

Hey
I think I should update you guys. We have talked on the phone before and stuff and it's actually fine. Her mom doesn't mention me anymore and we can talk on the phone. But when she called on Friday I told her to tell her Mom I said Hi. She did and her mom said Hi back but she got pissed I think cuz she was all *****y (her mom). So I still think she doesn't really like me yet.

[rocco]

Things starting to get better already.Give her mum time she'll like u.Hope for the best

[KeepDreamin]

Things will turn out dont worry,u see now u can talk to her on the phone,soon her mom will like u again

[pi_per]

Thanks guys. You're so sweet.

[shazza]

<font color="blue">* hugs ** Not such a disaster after all is it sis? </font>

[pi_per]

No not really, Sis. But I still feel kinda weird about it.

[shazza]

<font color="blue">** hugs * I know u do sis and you know where I am if you need me at all.. </font>

[pi_per]

thanks very much.

[NANCYK]

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Hey
I think I should update you guys. We have talked on the phone before and stuff and it's actually fine. Her mom doesn't mention me anymore and we can talk on the phone. But when she called on Friday I told her to tell her Mom I said Hi. She did and her mom said Hi back but she got pissed I think cuz she was all *****y (her mom). So I still think she doesn't really like me yet.

[/ QUOTE ] i think that her mom may like you. it is just her reacting to finding out her daughter likes girls. i hope it gets better. don't feel bad for the way you feel. her mom was wrong to call you that name.

[pi_per]

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Hey
I think I should update you guys. We have talked on the phone before and stuff and it's actually fine. Her mom doesn't mention me anymore and we can talk on the phone. But when she called on Friday I told her to tell her Mom I said Hi. She did and her mom said Hi back but she got pissed I think cuz she was all *****y (her mom). So I still think she doesn't really like me yet.

[/ QUOTE ] i think that her mom may like you. it is just her reacting to finding out her daughter likes girls. i hope it gets better. don't feel bad for the way you feel. her mom was wrong to call you that name.

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Last Update: I haven't talked to her for about 2-3 weeks now. She wrote an e-mail yesterday and that's it. I think our friendship changed.

[shazza]

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Hey
I think I should update you guys. We have talked on the phone before and stuff and it's actually fine. Her mom doesn't mention me anymore and we can talk on the phone. But when she called on Friday I told her to tell her Mom I said Hi. She did and her mom said Hi back but she got pissed I think cuz she was all *****y (her mom). So I still think she doesn't really like me yet.

[/ QUOTE ] i think that her mom may like you. it is just her reacting to finding out her daughter likes girls. i hope it gets better. don't feel bad for the way you feel. her mom was wrong to call you that name.

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Last Update: I haven't talked to her for about 2-3 weeks now. She wrote an e-mail yesterday and that's it. I think our friendship changed.

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<font color="blue"> awwwwwww huggles sis I'm here if you need me anytime sis </font>