bi.im very confused

[mad4jamesbourne]

please can someone help me.this is really getting me down.i am not sure if i am bi.i think i am but i need to someone to see it from a different view and tell me if i am or not.

there is this girl in my year and i think she is really pretty. i love everything about her.the way she laughs and smiles. when i am wondering around school i feel the need to see her.she sends my stomach funny inside.the way i dress is starting change to look like her.she dresses very kind of like a skater. so i find my self looking like i do.so that she will comment on what i look like.i do fancy boys but the way i feel about her is different to how i feel about lads
please help i don't know if some people ever feel this way or if i am just bi.i need advice.if iam should i tell her how i feel. i know that she is bi but she has a boyfriend at the moment.what should i do /images/graemlins/confused.gif

[sammypoo1]

hey, from what ur saying it doesnt sound like ur bi. i have many people that i find pretty and i accept it. for instance i may look on tv and find someone pretty, or sometimes i see people around school and find them pretty. theres nothing wrong with appreciating someones beauty.

as for the tingly feelings in ur stomach, it could just be because u admire her because she is such a great friend and a nice person, it doesnt mean that u r bi.

i hope this has helped, sammy /images/graemlins/smile.gif

[L373]

i totally agree with what sammy says, i also see other girls and think there pretty, its just showing that you aclolage someones beaty.
but hey, if you ever realise that you actually are bi, there is nothing to be ashamed about, it dosnt change you as a person

love and harmony always
luv lisa marie xXx

[sexie__brunette]

i say the same as they do! good luck

[laura2121]

hiyaz
i agree wiv wots been sed also. ya sed ya copy the way she dresses, maybe its more tha ya wood like 2 be like this girl an thas ok i think every1 wans 2 b the pretty popular person in class. if it turns out tha ya r bi then thas ok 2, tryin 2 find out who ya r is very hard 4 every1, maybe ya should hold of tellin her intill ya r abit more sure.
take very gud care an stay safe
we r here if ya need 2 talk
laura

[mad4jamesbourne]

hey im glad that i don't sound bi not that it would bother me if i am.its just i know that my family would totally freak out.
everything really helped all of ur advice.i had to ask someone about what i felt cause i wasn't sure.it does sound right that i find her pretty and amdire her.
everything u said makes sense.thanks for helping me out guys.u really r awesome people.

[sammypoo1]

no problems we are always here 4 u

[Dena]

Hey honey, You may be bi, however you could be like most women(we are sooo not like men) We can appreciate another womans body. Have you ever noticed you can say "man she is hot" does a guy say that about another guy? NO! They are to insecure. I am 32 I have been to female strip joints with my husband, I buy him lap dances, and I give the women dollar bills out of my mouth(most of them have kids and are only trying to make a living) I am not gay, or bi. The big question is....... Can you picture/imagine you physically with another female if the answer is no you are just having that appreciation that most woman do, if you say yes that is ok to explore it, I don't think there is anything wrong with that. I have gay relatives and it is ok. You don't have to explain it to your parents untill the time is right if the latter case is so. I am lucky I have 3 kids who have grown up with homosexual and bi in the family so they would have no fear telling me and I am one who would be soooo accepting no matter what my kids are. I may mourn the fact of maybe having no grandkids, but my kids are 8,5,3 I have many years right?

[mad4jamesbourne]

thanks for all the advice.im not bi i just really appreciate her and like her
the thing which sucks now is iam leaving school and will never see her again.i will miss her

[Shauna]

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thanks for all the advice.im not bi i just really appreciate her and like her
the thing which sucks now is iam leaving school and will never see her again.i will miss her

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aww thats a shame you won't see her. but yes i think what you are/were feeling for her was just adoration and admiration.

[jessicalover]

hey
sweetie
i can say i know how u feel but not really because i'm fully gay! but there was this girl named Brittany and she may not fit the standareds but i didn't care because she was it u know i pay her food, little cards write her letters then i asked her out after taking and getting to know her but yeah i love her still u know i cried when she told me no! i moved on but no ur not bi or anything

[geekazoid]

Maybe you should try and get to know her, become friends. Then you will be able to see her even after school had finished. Don't worry, it isn't something to worry about, teenage hormones are all over the place!!

[AlyssaFan4Ever07]

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hey, from what ur saying it doesnt sound like ur bi. i have many people that i find pretty and i accept it. for instance i may look on tv and find someone pretty, or sometimes i see people around school and find them pretty. theres nothing wrong with appreciating someones beauty.

as for the tingly feelings in ur stomach, it could just be because u admire her because she is such a great friend and a nice person, it doesnt mean that u r bi.

i hope this has helped, sammy /images/graemlins/smile.gif

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^^ I totally agree with you here.



-Amber

[Angelina_Fan]

Don't think about it. being bisexual isn't an offence and you wouldn't be doing anything wrong if you were so. I've known i was bisexual since i was 7 years old. I knew that because i started being attracted to other females. Growing up i never bothered about it or thought about it or tried to change it because i know i can't. It's me. I like both males and females. I'm not going to be ashamed and i'll be damned if others can make me. Through high school i never lied about it and i never hid it, i just didn't promote it. If someone asked i honestly answered. A couple of years back i thought i was a lesbian.. purely because at the time i wasn't attracted to any males.. or i couldn't get that feeling but i just left time to take it's course and i got it again. At the end of the day don't bother about it, if you are because it's who you are. You might find it's just teenage curiosity like most /images/graemlins/smile.gif