Doesn't it anger you?

[CrimsonRegret]

Doesn't it anger you when Adults, especially teachers are all "Oh, we're here to look out for you" but then they never seem to be around when you need to talk? Or they or too wrapped up in their own lives to really listen? I'm tired of the adults in my life with their false promises and their lies. If they didn't want to look out for our well being, then why would they lie and say they did? I just don't get it. Especially teachers at my school! Granted, they are still pretty young, but their reasoning for no bathroom breaks or for sending you to the guidance officer is that they are looking out for you, but they miss the signs. They always miss the signs that count. I wrote some of the most depressing poetry you could think of and it took over a year of reading it before my teacher decided something was wrong! I wore long sleeves for two years, even in 96 degree weather and nobody thought anything was wrong! I would go to the bathroom after almost every meal or soon thereafter, and blast my stereo to drown out the sounds, and would be in there for hours, and no one noticed! People don't care. That's what I've come to believe. They just don't care. And it angers me!

[MaemaeAngel]

i hate adults like that. i've got some friends like that and that's even worse then adults. it's not that people don't care it's just that some of them don't have very good ways of showing it. well i hope everything gets better for you soon.

[kbella]

Let me first tell you that i am not saying any of this in a "*****y way". Not at all. I just want a chance to explain some stuff. Not all adults are like that. Not all teachers are like that either. i am one. And I teach high school. And it's not always so easy to read the signs. Some are more obvious than others. But when you are a person who is trying to keep up with the lives of 1,000 people a day, it get's a bit muttled. and not because we don't care. Sure, there are some teachers who don't give a ****. I happen to NOT be one of them. I do care. If someone needs my help, i get involved, and do my best to guide them in the right direction. But you have to understand the tremendous constraints that are put on teachers. Our hands are so far beyond tied in these situations. In most states, teachers are under all these rules and regulations that don't allow them to get involved, say certain things, etc. teahcers are under stricter rules than the students. It's not fair. Sometimes we are all these kids have got. We are the closest things to moms, dads, brothers or sisters that these kids have got. simple involvement, offering words of comfort and support or even trying to find that kids some helpful information can sometimes get teachers repremanded or even fired. We have ridiculous constraints on us. It's a thin line to walk, especially when we may have our own child to feed and support and we are depending on that job to keep a roof over our kids' head. It puts us between a rock and a hard place. We then have to find creative ways of helping these kids who are crying out for help. I for one will do anything i can for a kid that is crying out for my help, either silently, or openly. If i can help somehow, i will do my very best not to let that kid down. if I can't help that kid, i will give them the information or resources to put them in touch with people who can help them. This past school year i helped a girl with an eating disorder to finally talk to her grandparents and got them the information to get her into a treatment program. she missed nearly 6 months of school, but came back healtheier, happier. another girl was being abused by a family member, and i told her how to get out and get help. She did. she now lives with a foster parent and is getting counseling for the abuse she suffered. I am not saying I am anyone's 'savior" or anything like that. I am saying that I am a TEACHER(And adult) who put her job on the line- a job that i need to help feed and clothe and house my own child- But I was willing to put my own job on the line and at least try get those kids the help they desperately needed. See, some of us DO care. You know how painful and aggrevating it is for a teenager to feel that people are judging him/her unfairly, without first knowing them, or what they are all about? That's what i am saying. give SOME of us a chance. we aren't all bad, and we certainly aren't all uncaring. some of us actually DO. /images/graemlins/wink.gif

[CharmingAngel]

Yeh, it does anger me, but I've had only good experiences. Teachers and other adult persons were always there for me, and still are. Not every adult is ''bad'', cause you have to realize, they're human too.

And IF it gets out of hand in their eyes, they will be there for you, trust me, they will.

[geekazoid]

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Doesn't it anger you when Adults, especially teachers are all "Oh, we're here to look out for you" but then they never seem to be around when you need to talk? Or they or too wrapped up in their own lives to really listen? I'm tired of the adults in my life with their false promises and their lies. If they didn't want to look out for our well being, then why would they lie and say they did? I just don't get it. Especially teachers at my school! Granted, they are still pretty young, but their reasoning for no bathroom breaks or for sending you to the guidance officer is that they are looking out for you, but they miss the signs. They always miss the signs that count. I wrote some of the most depressing poetry you could think of and it took over a year of reading it before my teacher decided something was wrong! I wore long sleeves for two years, even in 96 degree weather and nobody thought anything was wrong! I would go to the bathroom after almost every meal or soon thereafter, and blast my stereo to drown out the sounds, and would be in there for hours, and no one noticed! People don't care. That's what I've come to believe. They just don't care. And it angers me!

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You make it sound as if you only did it because you wanted someone to notice, which is not the right reason. If you really wanted someone to notice that much and you were trying to give out obvious signs, then why didn't you tell someone. Let me ask you this, have you ever told a teacher that you are there for them, or any adult? We think because we are teenagers that the entire world is about us, everyone is against us. Maybe we need to start thinking that adults aren't there to indulge us. When I was really in pain i didn't want anyone to know, i didn't write depressing poetry in the hopes someone would send me to a councellor. kbella is right about teachers, my mum is one and she is not allowed to put her arm around a student, even if they are crying becuase of all these stupid new laws. There can be thousands of kids in a school, give teachers a break and if you need help, take responsibility and get help.

(rant over now /images/graemlins/grin.gif)

[CrimsonRegret]

Okay, maybe I was being unfair in grouping ALL adults in there. How bout just the ones I know? And yes, my poetry was a cry out for help. I guess to understand why I didn't openly come out and ask for help is because in my family, you are taught from such a young age that asking for help is a weakness. So I wrote poetry. I guess subconsciously it was what I assumed was my only option as "asking for help." Plus, I had to do it for an English class, so when I wrote, the dark stuff just came out. I can't help what comes out. I never meant to accuse anyone here of anything. And if I did, I am terribly sorry.

~Meg

[laura2121]

hey crimson
i no its hard 2 ask 4 help, but it isnt a weakness who eva told ya tha is rong, it takes a strong person 2 ask 4 help an i no u can do it!! i no how it feels wen ya feel like ya givin out signs an no1 is noticin. its not tha they dont care its more likely tha they jus dont no, i hope tha u can find sum1 u can talk 2, where here if ya need 2 talk ok
take very good care an stay strong ok
laura

[Mavrick]

Here's my two cents, find someone to talk too. It doesn't have to be a teacher or an adult. I have the feeling that your upbringing was somewhat similar to mine. I don't tell my parents everything or friends. It's just one or two people that i know I can trust because unfortunatley there are a lot of people who will say they will be there, but not all of them will pull through for you. So try to find someone to at least talk to. Talking about it is the first step.

[Mahas]

You're right.
I mean, if they become teachers, they're supposed to care about their students. I work in a schools and I think my students trust me, I try to be with them, specially when they need me.
It's horrible what you say: don't they notice you're away? or your clothes???
It sounds like your school has too many students in the same classroom, so the teacher is not enough for your group.
Maybe you should talk to another adult you can trust on.
Well, my English is not perfect, but if anytime you need me, just PM me.
Blessings
Maha