Why did they have to stick their noses in?

[L373]

Why did they have to stick their noses in my business? i will start at the beggining:i have selfed harmed for 2 years, and got fed up of hurting so i went to a teacher who i cud trust to get sum help, everything went to plan and i stopped. but recently i started again, so i went back to the councellor(sp?) the teacher got me. but sumwhere along the way, all my teachers found out, including my head of year, who rang social services who told her to ring my parents, now my parents wont leave me alone to sort my self out, my dad just constantly asks questions and my mum shouts at be for being 'so stupid' etc.
i wish they wud just leave me alone, i can take care of myself.

lisa marie

[verynsanedru]

people suck, and are ignorant especially parents just because they gave birth to you does not mean they always know what's best for you. Have you tried talking with them and try and get to them to see it from your point of view. and it's the law if you are a threat to yourself or someone else your parents have the right to know, at least that's how it is here. Sucks I know that's why I never tell people squat. Stuff like that, you don't usual bring up to a random teacher, you cofide in someone you trust, unless you want attention or really did trust this person and they weren't random.

[taz90]

oo been there done that its really annoying isnt it! my mom did the same she just went mental shouting and stuff but that dont really help nothin does it its crazy... hey if u wana tlk then just pm me

[L373]

you don't usual bring up to a random teacher, you cofide in someone you trust, unless you want attention or really did trust this person and they weren't random.

i didnt wnt attension, i honestly trust her, and i know for a fact she wast the one who told all the other teachers

[verynsanedru]

Do you know who did? I do know what it's like to not be left alone ever and be shouted at. I'm sorry I just know people who do SI for attention, but also know people who do it as a coping mechanism.

[L373]

my drama teacher found out when i refused to take of my wrist bands when she told me to, and she said she had to tell the other teachers, eventhough i didnt want her to, i only trust the one teacher i told, but now everyone knows and its p**s**g me off *sorry for the swear*, i am definatly not doin it for attension, attension is the last thing i want.

[verynsanedru]

ok lesson number one never use your arms, if you don't want people to see cut where you know it will be covered by a bathing suit.

[geekazoid]

Why did they have to stick their noses in my business? i will start at the beggining:i have selfed harmed for 2 years, and got fed up of hurting so i went to a teacher who i cud trust to get sum help, everything went to plan and i stopped. but recently i started again, so i went back to the councellor(sp?) the teacher got me. but sumwhere along the way, all my teachers found out, including my head of year, who rang social services who told her to ring my parents, now my parents wont leave me alone to sort my self out, my dad just constantly asks questions and my mum shouts at be for being 'so stupid' etc.
i wish they wud just leave me alone, i can take care of myself.

lisa marie

I know this is going to sound harsh, but have you considered that the fact that you have to resort to cutting yourself means that maybe you can't take care of yourself? Your parents love you, and they are just trying to help you, chances are they don't know what to do themselves. I'm sure if you talked to them about it it would help a lot

[deejayH]

I know this is going to sound harsh, but have you considered that the fact that you have to resort to cutting yourself means that maybe you can't take care of yourself? Your parents love you, and they are just trying to help you, chances are they don't know what to do themselves. I'm sure if you talked to them about it it would help a lot

boy i really hate to do this
but i agree with geek
cutting is not like chewing your fingernails
it is a serious problem you should not go through alone
and down the road, in years to come, you will probably thank your teacher for ' opening her big mouth'

[L373]

i understand what you guys are saying, i honestly do, but i was dealing with it and getting help to stop cutting, and now that everyone knows its really hard to not just fall back into the habit of cutting again, i hant done it for a few weeks now but the pressure everyone is giving me is really building up and i dont think i can hold on much longer.

[geekazoid]

boy i really hate to do this
but i agree with geek


lol :D

(ten letters)

[sammypoo1]

Why did they have to stick their noses in my business? i will start at the beggining:i have selfed harmed for 2 years, and got fed up of hurting so i went to a teacher who i cud trust to get sum help, everything went to plan and i stopped. but recently i started again, so i went back to the councellor(sp?) the teacher got me. but sumwhere along the way, all my teachers found out, including my head of year, who rang social services who told her to ring my parents, now my parents wont leave me alone to sort my self out, my dad just constantly asks questions and my mum shouts at be for being 'so stupid' etc.
i wish they wud just leave me alone, i can take care of myself.

lisa marie

i think the only reason ur mum shouts at u may be because she doesnt know how to cope, it has probably come as a shock to her that her little baby (and lets face it all children are to their mums, no matter what age) is hurting herself and she really doesnt want u to. i for one, dont think u are doing it for attention and i know that it is very addictive and a good way to relieve pain. im guessing that all of these people really care about u and want to help u through this, even though it was completely out of order for someone to tell all of ur teachers. sometimes we may think we can take care of ourselves but we do need help, just try letting others help u, even if it is just a trial and alot of the pressure should be relieved. i really hope this helps, pm me if u need to chat, im always there, sammy :)

[Shaunzo]

Lisa;
Your parents provide unconditional love and care for you. Please do not get me wrong. However, i will agree that I have seen parents call their kids names for these things. Often times, they would do this on the premise that their child is 'causing a scene.' On that note, your parents need to realize that there is a serious issue on their hands, and they need to help you. Not every parent needs a Ph.D in Psychology to cure their children. If your parents are unable to accomodate proper help, I recommend the assistance of a qualified doctor who can help you with your problem. Not every parent is going to know about every cure for their children, which is why there are trained and knowledgable people who do.
Also - I am sorry to hear that your teachers found out about your problem. I can understand it happening, as your teacher may not exactly know what to do and may just simply be asking for help in this regard. Teachers don't talk about these types of things to make fun of you, but rather to gain and present an idea that will be in your best interest. I recommend talking to your parents, and if that doesn't work out, talking with your school and getting help from a trained professional. Please do not let them discourage you from seeking the help.


Why did they have to stick their noses in my business? i will start at the beggining:i have selfed harmed for 2 years, and got fed up of hurting so i went to a teacher who i cud trust to get sum help, everything went to plan and i stopped. but recently i started again, so i went back to the councellor(sp?) the teacher got me. but sumwhere along the way, all my teachers found out, including my head of year, who rang social services who told her to ring my parents, now my parents wont leave me alone to sort my self out, my dad just constantly asks questions and my mum shouts at be for being 'so stupid' etc.
i wish they wud just leave me alone, i can take care of myself.

lisa marie

[sammypoo1]

ok lesson number one never use your arms, if you don't want people to see cut where you know it will be covered by a bathing suit.

umm, i dont mean to offend u but surely u should being trying to help and not give ways that are more effective and are going to prevent lisa from stopping...

[MAGIC_MORRIS]

Hi,

You are right, your teachers that interfered have only added to your problem, you now feel let down by the people that you should have been able to look to for hep as you did in the first instance.

As for your parents we do not know the true circumstances, but they are probably as scared of what you have been doing as you are.

You recognise you need help, that is the first step, now you must find it inside yourself to rise above everything that is going on around you, and to build up to the place where you had stopped self harming before. And because you did manage to control it before I have faith in you, that you can control it again and finally overcome it in time. But it does take time.

Try and talk to your parents in a calm voice, ask them to sit and listen to you first, and that in return you will listen to them if they can talk calmly about it.

I will be thinking of you.

Wishin gyou and your Family,

Peace Health & Happiness Always

Luv

Jane

[L373]

thanks for all your help guys, i really appreciate it.
im still hanging on but only by a very thin thread, i can feel my self falling and im trying with all my mite to just hang on, and comeing here and reading the messages from you guys is helping be to grab an extra branch to hold on to.
Thank you
Luv Lisa marie xxxx

[sammypoo1]

thanks for all your help guys, i really appreciate it.
im still hanging on but only by a very thin thread, i can feel my self falling and im trying with all my mite to just hang on, and comeing here and reading the messages from you guys is helping be to grab an extra branch to hold on to.
Thank you
Luv Lisa marie xxxx

just make sure u keep a tight grip on the thread and dont give up, some days may be harder but in the end it will be worth it :D

[L373]

just make sure u keep a tight grip on the thread and dont give up, some days may be harder but in the end it will be worth it :D

I really hope your right

[sammypoo1]

I really hope your right

dont worry i am, just have faith and believe in urself :)

[Mahas]

Hello Lisa Marie
I see your parents are really worried and that's why they act that way.
Maybe when you teacher told to them, they over reacted, and obviously your parents believed them.
I think you should talk to them when they are calmed.
When I couldn't talk to my dad, I used to write a letter for him. It always work, your parents "have" to read the letter and they can not "interrupt" what the letter says.
So, try it. But be very careful about what you write.
Tell them you can take care of yourself, and of course you love them and need them, but like friends at this time of your life.
Good luck
I hope I can help you.
If you want to talk, PM me.
Blessings :)
Maha

[CZJ]

i think its not ur failt ,,, i mean u realize that u have a problem and u tried u help urself and solve it,,, the probem is on the teacher ... she should be sooo private, she should deal with it secertly with ur parents. and abt ur mother and father, they try to look after u but in the wrong way,,, so forgive them bcoz they want what is best for u.

good luck

thanx

[deejayH]

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v130/bludempsey/needahug.jpg

hope it helps

[CZJ]

who??? me???

okay ;)

[L373]

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v130/bludempsey/needahug.jpg

hope it helps

thats SO cute, thanks for making me smile :)
things are getting better, very very slowly but surely.
thanks to everyone for you support
i luv you guys
love and harmony always
luv lisa marie xXx

[eminemrocks2804]

I no its hard but you really need someone to talk to even if its not your parents , you dont want it to get to far.My freind killed himself when he was 14 and i was 12 and i dont want anybody going through what he went through and his familey went through. He wouldnt talk about his problems and now its been two years and we still dont no why he did it and it hurts to no that he felt like he had no one. But you obviously do, so please talk to someone, pleas!!Luv bex xxx

[willy925]

Lisa;
Your parents provide unconditional love and care for you. Please do not get me wrong. However, i will agree that I have seen parents call their kids names for these things. Often times, they would do this on the premise that their child is 'causing a scene.' On that note, your parents need to realize that there is a serious issue on their hands, and they need to help you. Not every parent needs a Ph.D in Psychology to cure their children. If your parents are unable to accomodate proper help, I recommend the assistance of a qualified doctor who can help you with your problem. Not every parent is going to know about every cure for their children, which is why there are trained and knowledgable people who do.
Also - I am sorry to hear that your teachers found out about your problem. I can understand it happening, as your teacher may not exactly know what to do and may just simply be asking for help in this regard. Teachers don't talk about these types of things to make fun of you, but rather to gain and present an idea that will be in your best interest. I recommend talking to your parents, and if that doesn't work out, talking with your school and getting help from a trained professional. Please do not let them discourage you from seeking the help.

you hit the nail right on the head. I totally agree with you

[sexie__brunette]

I'm soooo sorry to hear your doing it agian....