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AlyssaMilano-MyIdol
01-04-2006, 12:58 PM
I never knew this was here!! If I knew a while ago I suppose I wouldnt be feeling like how I am now. I dont know if you guys still visit this part of the sight, but incase you do, here's my problem, or problems i should say. And im very sorry if I ramble on or if Im saying too much. But here goes...

It was back in the summer when things really started hotting up, my best friend had just got with my ex whom I still love, yes I know Im only 16, but I really truly love him, he's the first thing i think about in the morning, and hes the last thing on my mind in the evening. but they never talk to me now, well only very occasionally, but its iddle chit chat thats not worth anything. Anyway, I still cry myself to sleep at night. This situation made me start self harming again, Ive been doing that for nearly 5 years now...I hate it, it makes me feel horrible, but things get so stressful and I cant help it. I tried different things, I ended up not eating, then drinking, then smoking, and I still smoke now, Im trying to stop, but if I dont have a cigarette, I just cut myself which I dont want to do, but i dont want to smoke anymore either. I went to counselling once...I went for about a month, it didnt help, it just made me feel worse because the woman was patronising me and I didnt like it. So I stopped going.

In the middle of that big situation, someone I knew quite well, he committed suicide, and it was only a couple of minutes away from my house where he did it. I hate him for leaving me behind, I wish I was in his place. I know you will probably all tell me to go get help straight away and everything, but its really hard for me, I cant trust people easily, and I cant let my feelings out easily, what im doing now, is very weird for me, ive never spilled so much before, especially not on a message board, but I felt I could because you are all so caring, and you listen, you dont judge and you dont patronise, you're just there for people.

I feel a tiny bit better now I have got that off my chest, its weird, all that happened about 8 months ago, but it still affects me just as bad as it did back then. And ive talked about it a little, but it never helps!! I wish it would, I wish all my pain would go away.

Something that im trying now is meditation. You close your eyes, think of an escape place, where you can be at peace with yourself, i picked a beach, with the sea gently lapping the shore and where the breeze is running through my hair. It helps so far. But when im really worked up and upset it doesnt work atall.

Im off now, I feel I have probably spilled my feelings too much for my liking!! But I will put alot of faith in you guys not to judge me for it.

Keep up the love

Charlotte xxx

Shaunzo
01-05-2006, 05:36 AM
Charlotte,
My sincerest regards are extended to you during this time. Please understand that you can post here anytime you are feeling down, without any sort of fear of retaliation or reprisal. We're here because we support you every step of your life and nothing less.
About the cutting, I will firstly say that you should seek professional help about that. We can offer support here, but we cannot offer qualified counsel.
In regards to your relationship, Always remember to keep strong. I am a firm believer that 'everything happens for a reason' and that everything will fall into place at the right time. While you may still like your ex, please don't let your senses misguide nor decept you, as there are still many people in this world that you will encounter.
In regards to your last story, please don't ever consider that as an option. Again, you should seek qualified counsel in regards to that but please remember that you are only young. Give yourself a chance to discover your true inner ambitions. When you do, you will be alot happier not only with yourself, but with your future relationships. Remember, young starts with You. :)
If you ever need to talk, you know how to reach me.

AlyssaMilano-MyIdol
01-05-2006, 10:15 AM
:) Thankyou, I appreciate it, I really do. I was scared no-one was going to reply and that everyone would just ignore it...

I am hopefully going to go back to counselling soon, once I get the courage!! It takes alot for me to open up, and im glad people on here didnt just push me away and ignore me :)

Anyway, thanks again

Keep up the love

Charlotte xxx

Ryebeach
01-05-2006, 11:13 AM
:) Thankyou, I appreciate it, I really do. I was scared no-one was going to reply and that everyone would just ignore it...

I am hopefully going to go back to counselling soon, once I get the courage!! It takes alot for me to open up, and im glad people on here didnt just push me away and ignore me :)

Anyway, thanks again

Keep up the love

Charlotte xxx
Charlotte,

Your friends here at Safesearching are always here for you, regardless of the situation. I'm glad to hear you'll be going back to couselling soon. Not every counselor will be a good fit but don't let that put you off to the whole process. It truly can and does help. It may take a couple of counselors till you find one that works the best with you but when you do find that one, you will definately know it as you'll feel comfortable with that person and feel able to share your feelings.

I would recommend taking a close friend or family member with you. As Shaun stated, we're here for you either through posts on the board or via PM. Never hesitate to contact us if need be.

Keep up hope and all will be okay, I'm a firm believer in that. Best of luck with everything.

Rye

AlyssaMilano-MyIdol
01-05-2006, 12:35 PM
Thankyou Ryebeach. I have a close friend what is willing to come with me, it's now just a matter or facing my fears, I hate cousellors, I just hate them so much (no offence to any counsellors that might be out there!!!) But I know I have to do it, I know I have to. I just need to find the courage from somewhere inside of me and go and talk about everything. It will be very hard, i know that, and im going to have to revisit things from the past that I havent dealed with, which is basically everything bad that has happened!! Its going to hurt like hell telling them everything, but I will have to deal with it and go through all of that pain to get better.

Thanks for all your support :)

Keep up the love

Charlotte xxx

DaysFan10122
01-05-2006, 09:04 PM
We all here at Safe Searching care for all of us. You can post here whenever you are down or need to talk to someone. We are here to support you. As for the problem I would go to counselling (i'm glad to hear that you are going soon). I hope that you will get out of this problem soon. Again remember we are all here to support you.

All the best
Daysfan10122