Im not sure what to do....

[AlyssaLoverx]

Well i havent mentioned about my step dad before and his problems he has with me,well about 2 weeks ago i had two exams i was so frightended to do i ask for help from him and my mum they were getting frustrated with me and then i over heared martin my step dad say she cant even read and i took that to my heart because i know i cant read well and im sick and tired of people hinting that to me and even telling me that im trying and i hate it not being able to read well but thats the way i was born just with problems.

well into more detail my mum had a child with him 11 years ago then things changed from the start really we got money problems and problems with me growing up i guess i changed and didnt like to be left to the side i grew up without a dad so it was hard, well she is a brat that i can not stand :mad: :mad: she is selfish and so mean and she had a perfect childhood life that i wish i had, and anyway today she was moaning for another outfit AGAIN for a party we havent got any money as my mum cant work as she has to look after her :mad: my mum is going mad as she really wants a job but cant and him the so called dad wont give up to look her his child well so she hasnt got any to even pay the rent he just waste it on bikes and wow pays for the food shopping thats it all he cares about is his bike and he wants me to work after college which it 5pm i finish and i start at 8.45am so what social like would i get at all :( i said i am not working and going to college that u want me to do to he is not having both from me its to much pressure on me im so stressed and i cry all the time i dont know what to do shall i give him what he wants which is a job and leave college or stay and do what i want to do which is graphics or 3d :( i just want to talk to someone but he complains and says i talk to weirdos i really want someone to talk to.

[*Lilac*]

Aww Lisa you know that Im always there for you no matter what, Im so sorry to hear that ur mum has no job, ur ''stepdad'' doesn't understand, and you feel so trapped inside you want tell him how you feel but you are afraid what he will do, he doesn't understand that college is important to you. And you want to get your qualification on Graphics :)
And if you need anything you know where Iam no matter what day or night :)
I know its hard sis, and I know its hard to ignore him aswell. but if you need anything pm ok:)

Hugs
*Lilac* xxxx

[Mariah]

Lisa, I understand your problems with your stepdad. Here's my advice, you should stay at college and do what you want to do, which is graphics.

If you need anything you know I'm here for you !

Love,
Maureen.

[md28379]

I'm sorry to hear that you are having such a tough time. I think you should do whatever makes you happy, because you have to live with the decisios you make and you are old enough to decide what you want to do. If it makes you happy to go to college, then I think you should go to college. Always remember if you ever need anyone to talk to you know how to reach me. Hang in there.

hugs,
Marie

[AlyssaLoverx]

thanks :)

but he thinks because i dont have a job that at college i do nothing at all so he gives me aload of things to do when i get home,yesturday he threw my laptop plug at me and shut my laptop down hard to close it all because i do not have a job. :( i shouted at him and said what you want to waste more money now by breaking it because it cost all my mums money she saved up she paid for it for my present at xmas because he had no money :( thats when she had a job.

[*Lilac*]

thanks :)

but he thinks because i dont have a job that at college i do nothing at all so he gives me aload of things to do when i get home,yesturday he threw my laptop plug at me and shut my laptop down hard to close it all because i do not have a job. :( i shouted at him and said what you want to waste more money now by breaking it because it cost all my mums money she saved up she paid for it for my present at xmas because he had no money :( thats when she had a job.


grrrrr he is so mean :(

*Lilac* xxx

[Mariah]

thanks :)

but he thinks because i dont have a job that at college i do nothing at all so he gives me aload of things to do when i get home,yesturday he threw my laptop plug at me and shut my laptop down hard to close it all because i do not have a job. :( i shouted at him and said what you want to waste more money now by breaking it because it cost all my mums money she saved up she paid for it for my present at xmas because he had no money :( thats when she had a job.

He's so mean !:(

[AlyssaLoverx]

i know i hate dealing with it :(

[Ronny]

Sis iam sorry to hear that. My mom doesnt understand me too and sometimes she blames me like iam sick i need to go work with force which i hate, i can understand ya.. About reading, unfortunatly i dont have that problem but my mom sometimes calls me names coz dont know english. And blame me coz my causins are much better... Dont leave college continue, do what you wish for and not what you " stepdad" wants you to do.


Remember this is your life so you need to live it, and no one else... If you wanna talk iam here for you sis, EVERYTIME.

[sammypoo1]

I'm so sorry Lisa, your "stepdad" sounds so horrible and he definetly doesn't understand you. My mum is the same in a way, she will always say I have it so easy because all I have to do is go to sixth form and my Saturday job from 8am till 2.30pm. Ok fair enough I leave in the morning for sixth form at 8am and get back anytime from 3pm until 5pm, but parents don't see that the work continues after you leave in the afternoon and evenings, there's homework, and revision, and then when its exam time you have all that added stress and pressure. My advice is the same as every else, do what makes you happy, and when you finish your college courses, next year you can go to uni and move out :) Don't regret making a wrong decision, you have more chances of getting a job that you will enoy and that you want the more qualified you are :)

[SUSANUK]

Hey Lisa,

I am sorry to hear that you and your stepfarther don't see eye to eye, and he does seem to be a right piece of work. my advice to you is... don't go down to his level, do what you want to do it's your life, if you wanna do something that makes you happy then do it, don't let him bully you into doing something that you don't want to do as it will only make you miserable.

Don't worrie about the reading it's just the way of life, it comes easier to some people and too some it don't, thats what make you unique and if people don't like it then tough, it's as simple as that. I too have a few imperfections but i don't let it bother me, mine is Maths, spelling, reading and sometimes writing but all i say is thank god for spell check (even though that is sometimes wrong lol) and calculators, there is always ways to improvise and improve yourself. It just takes time, like they say... you improve with age,

Don't let the situation get you down it just isn't worth it hun

if you ever wanna talk just send me a pm

take care
susan xx

[larry_h]

Yeah, as has been said, don't let it bring you down. I'm having major problems with my parents, as they birthed me and think they own me, so you just need to keep on. Things change.

-Larry

[kmh big fan]

im so sorry to hear how u are being treated by ur "stepfather". he is being really inkind when saying about how u cant read, he has no right to say this. i am a terrible speller and like susan said thank god for spell check. i think that it is terrible of him to ignore what your family needs and worrying about his bikes all the time. after your mum has saved so hard to get you your laptop he goes and nearly breaks it, that is so selfish of him. your mum worked hard to get you that and if he had broke it, it would have cost more money to fix. like other people have said stay on at college and get your grades so you can continue with graphics. he has no right to tell you to stop getting an education.

if you need to talk pm me,

kerri-marie
xxx

[Star_20]

Im sorry to hear u have this situation with ur stepdad......hope things get better
u should do what u really like not just do a thing that ppl like ur "stepdad" say cause they wont live with it...the only one gonna be u...is ur life dont let him get u down stay always strong sometimes is hard .......Lisa do what really make u Happy!:)