Lisalou
07-20-2007, 08:59 AM
If you have children or know someone who does PLEASE have them read this thread.
(mods I hope this is ok for me to post, I thought it was very important)
I have discovered through a close friend, a new trick that petophiles are using on unsuspecting mothers and children. It may seem innocent enough but don't be fooled so easy.
Here is the trick....
You are at a play ground with your child. All is well and your child is having fun with the other children. A man comes up and starts talking to you about your children and his. (at this point your children are playing together) The man goes over to his child and "accidently" spills a drink all over your child. The man apologizes over and over again. He wants to make it right by you, so he offers to let you use his house and his bathroom. His house is just accross the street. He gives you the keys to his house and says "just use the shower or what ever you need." He sits at the play ground with his children, (doesn't follow you) so you figure it's probably ok. (so far he sounds like a nice guy eh?) You go into the bathroom with your child and just to be safe you find a window at his house that faces the playground. You want to make sure he is still at the play ground, he is. The drink that he "spilled" was so bad and so messy that you have to put your child in the shower. So you clean your child up and change his/her clothes. You leave the "nice" mans house and all is well. You give the man back his keys, you sit at the play ground and for another two hours you have a pleasant conversation with the man. Sounds ok right? Don't be fooled!! Here is what really happened...
The nice man had cameras installed in the shower head, and walls which was wired to a video recorder, which is also wired to a laptop/computer. Later that night this man will edit the pictures of your child that he recorded. He will edit you out of the picture so now he has nude pictures of your child. This "nice" man will upload those pictures to a child *********** website that he owns.
Think it can't happen to you? Think again. My friend had this scam played on her and was horrified when the police found, and showed her the pictures of her child. This "nice" man had played this scam on unsuspecting mother and fathers for 7 years. How many different children? 745 How many pictures? 15,000
I think it's to bad that this case was tried over seas and not in America. The man that we are talking about got only 7 years in prison. He will likely be out in 4. Through the course of the investigation it was also discovered that he had molested over 100 children in the neighborhood including his own. He has been deemed unrehabilitatable, and is likely to reoffend.
So what can you do to keep you and your children safe? Here are some ideas that I have..
1. Don't let your child bathe at other people's homes.
Even if your child is going for a sleep over. Give them a shower/bath before you bring them to their friends house. Remember petophiles come in all shapes and sizes, rich and poor, as well as cultures.
2. Tell your child that they are not allowed to bathe at a friends house.
If the parents to your childs friend get offended then so be it. In my opinion you and only you alone are resposible for your childs hygiene. Not the friends parents.
3. (If this is a new friend for your child) Don't be affraid to "use the bathroom" and check things out. Know the enviroment that your child will be in. Your not being overly cautious, your being preventative!
4. Always trust your gut feelings! If something seems off then go with what you feel. As a parent you have a "radar" inside of you that alerts you to the "off" things. Learn to listen and to trust your instincts.
5. Don't be fooled into thinking that this only happens to little children. Pre teens are risk also.
6. Set up a password that only you and your child knows. If your child is uncomforable have them ask the other parents if they can call you to check in. Have them use the password. It can be anything. A sentence or a single word. Then you know that your child is not comfortable and you can come and pick your child up. My favorite is this.... Mom my stomche really doesn't feel well. It is an easy out, and it is also protective. You don't want to falsely accuse someone of being a petophile, or an abuser. Always take into consideration that sometimes your child is just not comfortable in a strange house.
I hope this helps you. And please pass this along. If only 5 people read it but tell a 100, it may prevent something bad from happening.
(mods I hope this is ok for me to post, I thought it was very important)
I have discovered through a close friend, a new trick that petophiles are using on unsuspecting mothers and children. It may seem innocent enough but don't be fooled so easy.
Here is the trick....
You are at a play ground with your child. All is well and your child is having fun with the other children. A man comes up and starts talking to you about your children and his. (at this point your children are playing together) The man goes over to his child and "accidently" spills a drink all over your child. The man apologizes over and over again. He wants to make it right by you, so he offers to let you use his house and his bathroom. His house is just accross the street. He gives you the keys to his house and says "just use the shower or what ever you need." He sits at the play ground with his children, (doesn't follow you) so you figure it's probably ok. (so far he sounds like a nice guy eh?) You go into the bathroom with your child and just to be safe you find a window at his house that faces the playground. You want to make sure he is still at the play ground, he is. The drink that he "spilled" was so bad and so messy that you have to put your child in the shower. So you clean your child up and change his/her clothes. You leave the "nice" mans house and all is well. You give the man back his keys, you sit at the play ground and for another two hours you have a pleasant conversation with the man. Sounds ok right? Don't be fooled!! Here is what really happened...
The nice man had cameras installed in the shower head, and walls which was wired to a video recorder, which is also wired to a laptop/computer. Later that night this man will edit the pictures of your child that he recorded. He will edit you out of the picture so now he has nude pictures of your child. This "nice" man will upload those pictures to a child *********** website that he owns.
Think it can't happen to you? Think again. My friend had this scam played on her and was horrified when the police found, and showed her the pictures of her child. This "nice" man had played this scam on unsuspecting mother and fathers for 7 years. How many different children? 745 How many pictures? 15,000
I think it's to bad that this case was tried over seas and not in America. The man that we are talking about got only 7 years in prison. He will likely be out in 4. Through the course of the investigation it was also discovered that he had molested over 100 children in the neighborhood including his own. He has been deemed unrehabilitatable, and is likely to reoffend.
So what can you do to keep you and your children safe? Here are some ideas that I have..
1. Don't let your child bathe at other people's homes.
Even if your child is going for a sleep over. Give them a shower/bath before you bring them to their friends house. Remember petophiles come in all shapes and sizes, rich and poor, as well as cultures.
2. Tell your child that they are not allowed to bathe at a friends house.
If the parents to your childs friend get offended then so be it. In my opinion you and only you alone are resposible for your childs hygiene. Not the friends parents.
3. (If this is a new friend for your child) Don't be affraid to "use the bathroom" and check things out. Know the enviroment that your child will be in. Your not being overly cautious, your being preventative!
4. Always trust your gut feelings! If something seems off then go with what you feel. As a parent you have a "radar" inside of you that alerts you to the "off" things. Learn to listen and to trust your instincts.
5. Don't be fooled into thinking that this only happens to little children. Pre teens are risk also.
6. Set up a password that only you and your child knows. If your child is uncomforable have them ask the other parents if they can call you to check in. Have them use the password. It can be anything. A sentence or a single word. Then you know that your child is not comfortable and you can come and pick your child up. My favorite is this.... Mom my stomche really doesn't feel well. It is an easy out, and it is also protective. You don't want to falsely accuse someone of being a petophile, or an abuser. Always take into consideration that sometimes your child is just not comfortable in a strange house.
I hope this helps you. And please pass this along. If only 5 people read it but tell a 100, it may prevent something bad from happening.